As adults, in addition to family, two people who matters the most are usually our best friends and our bee. They are the ones with whom we want to share everything. And in an ideal world, your partner and your BFF meets easily, which means that every outing turns into a slight creaming, but secretly adorable third-long position where you are soaking all love.

But what happens when things go sideways, when your best friend starts molesting your partner? This is a nightmare landscape that most of us hope that we will never deal with, yet it happens more often as we want to believe.

Suddenly, you are not only dealing with shock and anger, but also a painful question: can you really trust any of them? Do you call your friend? Do you face your partner? Do you try to save a relationship or risk losing both?

The condition can be disturbed, complex and emotionally dry. It is reported here that if you are ever stuck in this storm then how to deal.

Observe before fixing

Delhi -based Relationship Counselor, Ruchi Ruh tells Today India Even if the situation may feel like a betrayal, it is not important to jump to the conclusion.

“Sometimes, what seems like molestation can just be friendly. Carefully see how your partner gets it, or does they look uncomfortable? Is your friend crossing the boundaries despite repeated apathy?

Delhi -based Relations and Marriage Consultant Dr. Nisha Khanna also said that it is important to note what is really happening-what was said, how it was said, who started it, and whether it is a one-time incident or a recurring pattern.

You should find signs such as late night texting, unusual praise, or physical proximity that seem inappropriate.

This observation will help you see what is happening between your partner and your best friend, and also gives you clarity whether it is unilateral or mutual.

Start a conversation at home

Dr. According to Neetu Tiwari, senior resident, NIIMS Medical College and Hospital, Delhi, you should always talk to your partner first.

“Relationships are made on direct communication, not the third-party speculation. Facing a friend in front of your partner not only risk misunderstanding, but also weakens your partnership,” she says.

She suggests that your partner is slowly contacting, without any charge. ‘You are very close to them,’ Try ‘I feel uncomfortable about how close you are and they are recently. Can we talk about it? ,

This changes the conversation from defect to vulnerability. When you express your feelings, there is a chance to explain, assure or reflect your partner honestly.

For this, Dr. Khanna says that communication is a two-way road, and you must be open to listen to your partner’s approach. The goal is to solve the problem, not attacking each other.

Sometimes, your partner may not even realize their behavior, or your friend finds you like a boundary violation for you.

If your partner accepts this issue, work together on an action plan, whether it is avoided some interaction, more transparent, or limiting contact with a friend.

“Protecting your relationship is a human feature. This does not mean that it is making a safe place where both partners feel safe. If your partner is reliable and committed, this situation can really become an opportunity to strengthen your bond, showing that both of you choose each other on the plays and others’ advances,” says Ruuh.

Hard chat with your friend

When it comes to your friend, the conversation should be direct but respectable.

Dr. Khanna advised to be honest about what you have seen and how it makes you feel, without turning it into pure criticism. The tone should not be rigid, but it must be sufficiently firm to determine the boundaries.

In fact, tell me that the line has been crossed for you, whether it is late night call, private chat, or flirting comments, and explain why it hurts. Stay specific about whether the behavior is not good to move forward.

If your friend tries to brush it or reduce it, do not give that slide. Stand with your feelings and make it clear that it is not something you will tolerate. Even with long -standing friendship, it is important that they understand your limits and respect your relationship.

Friendship can be a lifetime treasure, but if the boundaries are blurred, they can also turn into subtle hazards. The main question is: Does this friendship nourish me, or does it weaken my relationship?

When it comes to deciding the fate of your friendship, it should depend on how your friend reacts.

According to Ruuh, if they accept their mistake and respect the boundaries you set, friendship may continue. But if they dismiss your feelings, they blame you, or continue to cross the line, this is a sign that friendship can not be more healthy.

To keep in mind the red flag of the future

• Secret communication: Late night calls, hidden texts, removed chats, or defensive when questioned.
• Across the border: Florty comments, thoughtful messages, unnecessary physical intimacy, or highly praised on your partner.
• Low behavior: To dismiss your relationship, make jokes at your expense, or to continuously praise your partner by ignoring or dislocation.
• Triangularization: Your friend inserts himself about your partner’s issues about your partner or the conflict between the two of you.
• Emotional intimacy change: Your partner shares details, demands comfort, or makes a special bond with your friend that they no longer share with you.
• Constant effort on specificity: Repeatedly trying to spend time alone with your partner or make you inside jokes that leave you.

Trust Factor

The trust is actually a deal-breaker here. Without it, even the most harmless chat may feel like a danger. If you are doubting your partner, you can set every laugh or message alarm with your friend.

And even if you are doubting your friend, a compliment may look like a molestation.

The best way forward? First strengthen confidence in your relationship, because when your bond is solid, the distraction outside does not have that much power.