From a cool soft launch, a mystery hand in the photo or two drinks on a table, to see the world cuddled-up to post, many people feel that a relationship is not real until it is on social media. After all, your followers need to see your ‘right person’, as well as with every romantic milestone, anniversary caption and romantic gate -update.

But studies make some different suggestions. Couples who are really happy in real life often post less online about their relationship. They do not feel the need to prove anything or share every detail. Instead, they focus on enjoying time together without thinking about the choice and comments.

Interestingly, couples who keep their love life private often feel close, communicate better, and have strong relationships. For them, the best moments are those that no one else sees.

No social media, no stress

Ravi Mittal, founder and CEO of a dating app Quacquack, tells Today India Some pairs, often in a happy relationship, post less on social media, as they are enjoying real -life moments to stay for social media.

He says that two out of ten happy couples are seen keeping their relationship private because they are afraid that they will do Jinx or someone will make an unwanted remarks that leads to an otherwise an avoidable crack.

Dr. Sumalatha Vasudev, Psychological, Glayngles BGS Hospital, Bengaluru, said that couples who do not post a lot on social media are under less stress. As they do not bother about external verification, they focus more on nourishing their relationship and their bonds privately.

She says that people who post less online are calm and more than peace.

In addition, sharing her experience, Priyanka Kapoor, a Mumbai -based doubles and family consultant, psychiatrist and psychologist, say, “Happy couples are very engrossed in enjoying moments together and not showing the public about their achievements.”

“I know the couples who rarely click pictures or even forget about it when they are spending a good time. They do not care about the world, as long as they are spending a good time. They believe more in emotional intimacy between the two that they are publicly happy,” she says.

Love thrives in private places

Sharing intimate details on social media is associated with relationship satisfaction. Mumbai-based relationship expert and writer Shahne Shivdasani explains that when you overhears, it can blur the boundaries, invite out opinion, and give rise to a lot of comparisons-all can reduce your relationship satisfaction.

She says that private moments often remain more real if you keep them private.

Dr. Vasudev agrees and says that posting everything about your love life on social media can put a lot of pressure on you to maintain the same image. By doing this, the real essence of that relationship can be overcome.

Meanwhile, Mittal says that it is not all black and white; Those who do not share their relationships on social media are not always happy, and those who do not always ask for verification.

He says, “Yes, taking care of intimate life, can indicate the need for assurance from people outside the relationship, but, and, and it is important, it is very easily that the person is very happy simply and wants to share it with the rest of the world.

When creeps in doubt

Relationships are like riddles, so when the pieces do not fit well, you try to cover them. Insecurity can increase the need to post a ‘happy couple’ selfie and expect external verification to reduce the fact that there is nothing right in the relationship.

It is more like, ‘If the world says that we are perfect, then who cares what my intestine thinks?’

“Relationships can turn into performance, and although the post is public, the performance is mostly to satisfy itching,” Mittal tells us, “it can also be addicted to drug addiction. A right post that gets a lot of choice, can do more verification and, in turn, can push for staged perfection. It leaves very little space for real experiences.”

Senior Advisory Psychologist of New Delhi Dr. Aarti Anand, Sir Gangaram Hospital, New Delhi explains that less self -respect or problems in their relationships can use social media as a tool for external verification.

Some of them can inspire others to think how good their relationship is, but in fact, it is the opposite. This pressure to maintain an ideal relationship can cause more anxiety and deteriorating in the relationship.

External verification helps a person to tell himself that the relationship is fine, while their intimate relationships are having problems.

Building of real connections

Kapoor only suggests that when you do not post on social media, you focus on your life and to resolve issues in your relationship rather than compare or ask for verification. When you make real connections and find real solutions.

Mittal also shares that the less you scroll, the less you compare. Meditation should be on your love story. Some posts how his partner proposed in front of the Eiffel Tower, and conversely, your partner pops up the question on a good day call. There is no more than each other, but post-wise, first has more material. It is important to remember what it looks like everything is not.

He said, “People who are not constantly urged to share their lives are more pressure-free; there is no one with other couples. There is just a real relationship that thrives even in normal days,” they say.

Meanwhile, Dr. According to Vasudev, maintaining your love life from social media can benefit your mental health. With a low requirement for external verification, the level of anxiety falls, and you have less chances of feeling jealous or pressure to maintain a perfect online image.

It also strengthens your privacy and boundaries, ensuring that individual moments are really personal. This reduces the risk of oversighting or inviting unwanted opinions from outsiders.

What experts suggest

Kapoor feels that couples should keep their personal life private. Displaying personal life online is just a superficial feel-gud factor. You should only post out with joy, fun and enthusiasm – not insecurity or jealousy. it is not healthy.

For Mittal, posting more or less depends on the couple. It is important to focus on real -life connections in a relationship rather than cuisted moments to create more connections with the audience.

On the other hand, Dr. Vasudev suggested posting from his heart. Less posting can be healthy, especially if you give importance to in-tradition interaction. It really depends on how you use social media. If you are posting for the protection of privacy, avoid comparison, and focus on your bond rather than public verification, this is a good thing. But if sharing online causes stress or anxiety, it is better to keep it minimal.

Sometimes posts can also be healthy when both partners enjoy sharing updates without pressure as a way to celebrate or connect. Key are mutual boundaries.

Shivdasani also says that it depends on the couple. If you are in love and happy, of course, you can share it. Just try to find a middle ground. Do not post very often or very little; Do what makes you feel comfortable for you and your partner.

She suggests to ensure that what you share is real for your relationship, not just because all the people are doing it or to create some big life love story for the Internet.

It is not what real relationships are. The real relationship is one that is behind the closed doors, away from the spotlight.