Therefore, Hollywood actor George Clooney said in an interview that he and Amal never fought in their 10 -year -long marriage. As surprisingly, this can be (especially after rumors of divorce), no, the couple never came into an argument. Never. Sometimes. Naturally, there is a slight recession in the Internet.

Not only Clooney, in fact, Genelia D’Suza and Ritish Deshmukh have publicly claimed that they have never come into an argument as long as they have been together.

However, let’s stop before we declare Clounland a new utopia. Is it possible to be really in a long -term relationship and never fighting? And even more importantly, should we target for this too?

‘No Fight’ Club

According to psychological and relationship specialist Aaniya Jai, the answer is not black and white. “The reference really matters,” she says. “Sometimes, the couples who say that they ‘never fight’ cannot mean that they never disagree. They often mean – what they have learned how to manage differences without flying things.”

In fact, he has a point. “Fight” is not the best way to describe how couples can choose to talk and solve things. Call what you want – logic, debate, emotionally charged ‘discussions’ – but it is the ability to navigate these differences that they receive.

You don’t matter, but you have maturity

As Dr. Rajendra More (PhD, Army Medical Corps-Pertad) said, “If you are mature enough to understand and respect each other’s feelings, you can address odd situations well before reaching the fight.” And no, it does not mean biological age – he is talking about your psychological age. You can be 25 and be intelligent as an owl in your relationship and yet, a 52 -year -old person can talk a little bit of things.

What matters is understanding each other and there is enthusiasm to work through any difficult situation.

Let’s talk to red flags

Most healthy relations are not devoid of conflicts. What the deal makes or breaks, is the quality of conflict.

“Like boxing, grassroots apply,” ions say. “Are you killing under the belt? And if yes, what are the punishment?”

Conflict is natural, but what is inappropriate is bringing out the previous mistakes, name-giving or gaslighting. They can do more damage than you feel. And when a partner always occurs at the end of these name-calling and low blasts, when peace begins.

Real red flag? silence. When one or both companions close emotionally and stop communicating, when rot begins. “Stopping communication is like multiplying cancer cells,” Dr. Peacock warns. “It takes you to hell.”

The fight is not failing

Whether you believe it or not, research has found that couples who argue together (creative disagreement) live together. Why? Because they are not afraid of difficult conversations. They have created muscle memory around the emotional struggle. “This is less about the fight and more about understanding,” Ion explains. “It’s not about winning, it’s about navigating.”

And sometimes, you need some playful banquet to keep the “Spice” alive, because Dr. Peacocks put it. (Read: Fickle, not throwing remote in the room).

When quarrels become red flags

If you are in the spiral of unresolved quarrel or, worse, icy silence, then the experts suggest here:

• Use the ‘5W1H’ rule (why, where, when, when, what and how) to break this issue.
• Do not rely on advice from a well -meaning aunt or friend who is through six breakups in two years, seek professional help when needed.
• Re -establish communication, even if it is strange.
• Stay calm, be kind. Remind yourself (and each other) why you chose life together.
• And finally, as Dr. More poetic says: “Chanting” he/she is mine forever – it’s in your hands. “

take away

If George and Amal Clooney never actually fight, it is great for them. But for the rest of us, remember, conflict is not a failure – this is part of the course of the relationship.