You upload a picture on social media. In minutes, you are obsessively refreshed, counting the choice, dissected the comments. Ringing bells? Welcome to the verification loop, a psychological cycle that is remopying our self-determination and sending millions to the nearest whirlpool to demand approval.

From birth, we are wired to seek verification. The teacher’s gold star does not just feel good to these moments by giving a colleague pressure to seek approval for the approval of the boss, they actually resume our brain. But this basic human need has converted into some more complex and often disastrous.

The science behind our approval addiction

Dr. Harish Shetty, a psychiatrist, simplifies it: “Applause is a heavy duty verification and many become accustomed. The loop is such that someone is addicted and behavior is reinforced to seek verification.”

This loop is a drug addictive. Each such as, shares, or compliments produce a hit of dopamine, which is similar to addiction. Social media has created a game out of verification in which we are searching for the next high forever. What was about being accepted once has developed in a addiction to approve numbers on the screen. No number is ever enough.

It usually starts in childhood. The child who was praised only for A directly A? Or whose parents were only proud of the award ceremonies? Those children learn young people that love comes with attached strings. They always confirm for adulthood that they are important, that they are fine, that no one cares that they exist.

But search for verification is not necessary. Human beings have always been worried about what their community believes, it keeps our species alive. This issue begins when the approval of other people becomes the only source of our self-value.

Cultural dimensions

Verification works differently in generations in India. Dr. Shetty noticed: “If a teenager expresses gratitude for her parents to be her parents, parents can pay it as duty.” This traditional upbringing is great for the creation of character, but the youth crave for praise that they never found at home.

Dr. Says Shetty, “Indians do not get so easily under praise, because” India is a symphony without symphony where the incredible is also beautiful. ” We are not homogeneous and are entitled to one million beliefs. The feeling of duty does not always recognize them. ,

Small Indians are torn between traditional and culture of getting recognized globally. They are raised to be independent, while constantly conveyed to platforms that want approval.

Public personalities have their own set of challenges. Dr. Shetty states: “The affected, actors and many artists cannot be stomach and cannot be severely depressed.” Other people turn to derogatory material. As he notices, “Some influential people deliberately shock the audience for acceptance and also enjoy negative and offbeat acceptance.”

Breaking Free: The Journey to Internal Verification

Most people essentially turn to internal verification with age. Dr. Shetty believes that “in the 30s or 40s many people start watching with yoga, Vipassana and others with one million practices.” They become more aware and practice that Lord Krishna has advised Arjuna, which is unattached to the fruit of labor. ,

In this ancient knowledge, there is a fire for the addiction of contemporary verification. When someone receives this awareness, one fulfills whether the texts are referred to as “Stita Praganya”, “separated from the fruit of labor.” Instead of apprehending approval, performing out of duty or true passion breaks the tired performance cycle.

Change is not simple, but it is required. As our online reality increases human contact, it is important for mental welfare and real relations to recognize verification loop.

The question is not whether we need verification; We all do. Query is: Will we get caught in the ends of external verification, or will we be peaceful inside ourselves?

Article by: Tanisha Sinha